Core Teen Behavior. …my daughter’s best buddy ended up being extremely upset when my daughter’s grade in Physics was a 99% and her’s was just a 98%.(Quote from the mom into the comments of this post.)
I think I must be running in the wrong circles, because that’s not what I’m seeing down here in the trenches when I hear about these kids.
Here’s what I identify with:
Had she allowed me to help… but I think that mattered more to me rather than her; she’s going to the ‘school of her choice’ (it simply wasn’t the educational school of my choice). (Quote from another mother, in the comments of this post.)
Which brings me to this list of Core Teen Behaviors that we’ve been compiling to remind myself, I’m not by yourself.
- 1) ‘Crumpled (bad) Test’ packed in bottom of backpack. See story about Takeshi Kumon and also the delivery of the Kumon worksheet.
- 2) The ‘Missing Test’ is a cousin of the ‘Crumpled Test.’ Am I the only one who asked 50 times, ‘Are you sure they didn’t give you the PSAT test booklet right back at college?’ to which 15 year old son reacted, ‘I’m sure,’ each time asked. 7 months later on, I found it in their backpack along using the ACT test booklet that he additionally thought he didn’t get back.
This blogpost by my pal Catherine reminds me that ‘Missing Test’ belongs on Core Behavior list.
Update: oops Ms. K. did send home state test prep material (see below). Apparently, C. has a PACKET.
- 3) mother as Executive Function for Entire Family. Inspired by this post of Catherine’s:
C. needs some slack ‘first,’ before getting right down to work. I protest, then cave. We become distracted & lose track of time. C. doesn’t see fit to remind me his quarter-hour are up.
This might be my favorite line (with which I fully identify):
Constantly having to remember who’s not doing what is eating up what little executive function we have left.
Here are a definite others that are few I suspect should be on the list too, but have not been able to verify:
- 4) Referring to you by first nick that is( name behind your back. This could be specific to teenage girls. Not certain. Have not witnessed men carrying it out, but have surely overheard daughter refer to me as ‘Deb,’ on more than one occasion.
- 5) Work Call Maneuver — I’m not sure this is even conscious, but when we say ‘no,’ they hold back until we’m in the phone to ask again. The more crucial the phone call, the greater likely I am to state ‘yes,’ just to make them go away. They must know this on some level.
- 6) Dog Years — Time invested playing video games is determined in dog years, versus homework time, which is on the mo clock that is slow.
I might have Found The Focus
This is going to seem ridiculously obvious, but provided out there that it took me 7 months to figure out, I’m just going to put it:
Locate a peaceful, remote place to disseminate, organize, and focus.
I know, it is so easy, right?
Until a couple weeks ago, I became trying to examine the house with kids tripping all over me personally. I could never locate a plain thing; I was disorganized, discombobulated therefore frustrated!
Typical scene, any given day:
Me: Pacing involving the living room, kitchen, and dining room essaywriterforyou.com in search of some little sticky note where we’d written the solution to some long problem that is elusive.
Finally, I’d find it. Thrilled, I’d stay at the kitchen area countertop trying to solve a problem that is similar. And then, finally, in the cusp of ‘understanding,’ ……..boom:
‘ Can you make me lunch?’
And then it’d be gone…..my thought……evaporated……just like this.
Now i’ve my own little bunny hole, where we’m therefore happy, I may never ever come away.
Flipping Functions, Be Gone With You
Almost eight months in — and I think I may possibly be getting closer to conquering these suckers.
Let’s just say this: no tears had been shed today.
PWNtheSAT says I have until and then we’re moving on to triangles monday. Yikes — my other pain point.
We actually went in terms of to pull every function that is single problem out of the Blue Book (in other words. nested, graph, dining table, icon, word, and parabola), and I’d state I’m about 3/4 of the way through with them — to the point of being able to explain them to someone else.
The next day I’m hitting the graphs, which is like a stroll in the park as compared to the nested functions of today.